There is a lot of fantastic fiction out the now for young adults (and those who are young at heart) but a disappointingly large percentage of these novels have portrayals of romances that are incredibly unrealistic, to the point of being unbelievable. I’m not against romance in YA fiction, just make it a least a little realistic. This post will contain some minor profanity.
No, bad boys do NOT make great boyfriends. For this problem, I am going to use the Hush, Hush series, because it’s got the best example. Patch. He’s a dick. A class-A, world champion dick. He tried to freaking kill Nora, and she’s all “me like Patch”. Even when she knows the best thing to do would be to stay well away from him. He’s an asshole, treats Nora like she’s his possession during most of the first book, and expects her not to freak out about him hanging around pretty closely with another girl (her ‘worst enemy’) in the second without giving her any sort of explanation. Of course, his behaviour leads to her being somewhat reckless and endangering her life.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoyed the Hush, Hush series for what it was, and I wasn’t looking for the meaning of life in the series, but gimme a break! Patch, particularly in Hush, Hush and Crescendo, is a good candidate for the worst boyfriend ever. It’s well summed up in this quote from Vee, in Crescendo, actually.
“He’s got the whole bad-boy-in-need-of-redemption thing going on, but the catch is, most bad boys don’t want redemption. They like being bad. They like the power they get from striking fear and panic into the hearts of mothers everywhere.”
That’s pretty much why bad boys don’t make good boyfriends outside of daydreams and erotic fiction.
Obsession, no matter how old you are, is never romantic. Even if you think and your boyfriend/girlfriend are the next Romeo and Juliet, obsession is still not romantic. Haters gonna hate for this example, but the Twilight Saga is the perfect example of obsessive love in YA fiction. Other than the fact that Edward is all Bella seems to think about (which makes being inside her head kind of scary), it’s very unrealistic of a relationship. Sure, lots of girls/women daydream about their significant other – particularly in a romantic situation, and that’s fine. But they do think of other things. Yes they’re allowed to miss their SO if they have to go somewhere without them, but it’s not the end of the bloody world.
I was consumed by the mystery Edward presented. And more than a little obsessed by Edward himself. – Bella
I was completely absorbed, except for one small part of my mind that wondered what Edward was doing now, and trying to imagine what he would be saying if he were here with me. – Bella
This weirded me out the whole time I read these novels (and yes, I have read all four.) Obsession isn’t cute or even remotely attractive. It’s often dangerous and definitely not at all healthy. You find me a case where obsession is healthy and I’ll eat my desk. Not really.
I’m using Twilight again, mostly because I can’t find a better example of freaking creepy in a book I’ve read. (If you have one, let me know.) Creepy is unattractive and unromantic. Hence the ick factor that most people get from someone being creepy. As much of an ‘epic romance’ as Bella and Edward have, there are definitely moments where Edward is downright creepy, especially for a ‘good vampire’.
I wrestled all night, while watching you sleep, with the chasm between what I knew was right, moral, ethical, and what I wanted. I knew that if I continued to ignore you as I should, or if I left for a few years, till you were gone, that someday you would say yes to Mike, or someone like him. It made me angry.
How is that not creepy! He watched Bella sleep like some kind of stalker dude. I have nothing against watching your partner while they are sleeping if you happen to wake up during the night. Most people only do it for a few moments though, just to see that their partner is content. Only creepy people watch their partner/want to be partner sleep all night whilst deciding against killing another person.
So ladies and gents, what are your thoughts on this subject? Do you agree, disagree or fall somewhere in between? Got an example that beats these?
Also, if you want to do a guest book rant, or have a suggestion for a rant, let me know!